12 spor fyrir ADHD

12 Steps for ADHD

1. Honesty: Admitting we were powerless over our ADHD, and all it entails (insert personal symptoms {piles, procrastination, lying to cover our tracks, impulsive poor decisions, etc.} include whatever hurts your functioning on any life level) and that our lives had become unmanageable.
2. Hope: Came to believe that ADHD is a lifelong condition and that a power greater than ourselves could set us free from the spiral we are stuck in. If we could have done this on our own, we would have done so by now!
3. Faith: Made a decision to turn our ADHD and our lives over to a higher power, as we understand it, and became committed to the idea that what we have tried in the past may need to be discarded.
4. Courage: Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves, making sure to include our strengths as well as our weaknesses! ADHD people are not without gifts and strengths, nor are we inhuman.
5. Integrity: Admitted to a higher power (as you know it, or a doorknob, or a member of the clergy, whatever works for you!), another (trusted friend, therapist, member of your favorite forum, etc.) and ourselves the exact nature of our weaknesses and strengths
6. Willingness: Were entirely ready to move forward and beyond the chains that bind us, focus on our strengths and strive for our best model of functioning.
7. Humility: Humbly asked for the help we need (from appropriate sources) to move forward and out of the patterns we have been stuck in, always bearing in mind that all things are not possible for all people. This may include medications for clarity, dietary changes, exercise, therapy, etc.
8. Truthfulness: Made a list of all persons we had harmed, including ourselves, and became willing to make amends to them all, committed ourselves to a plan of honesty and respect for ourselves and others, and dedicated ourselves to the concept that ADHD is not an excuse, although it is a medical condition.
9. Justice: Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others, and also made amends to ourselves for the process of beating ourselves up for what we had done when our ADHD was unknown and unmanaged.
10. Perseverance: Continued to take personal inventory and when we did poorly or did very well promptly admitted it.
11. Spiritual Awareness: Sought in the ways that work for us to improve our conscious contact with a higher power, as we understand it, seeking only for knowledge of the way for us and the power to carry that out. Your higher power will become known to you as what works for you and need not make sense to anyone else.
12. Service: Having been enlightened as a result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to other people with ADHD and the families they live with, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.

Higher Power is anything that the ADHD person accepts, be it a God, Goddess, the Tao, Nature, and/or even the group; it is to be used in such a way that the ADHD person is getting away from the self and selfishness, feels safe to admit they have ADHD and can rely on to help them break old patterns while not losing sight of the goodness within them.


Five States of Mind or The Death of the Old Way of Life

1. Denial: I don’t have a problem, I cannot help this, ADHD is something nobody can understand or help with.
2. Anger: Everyone is after me, it’s their fault, why me? Why should I bother to try if ADHD is incurable?
3. Bargaining: I’ll take my medications and hope for the best, I won’t take risks, I’ll blame my ADHD for my shortcomings...etc.
4. Depression: I’m a bad person, I can’t do anything right, life sucks.
5. Acceptance: First step in the healing process!

Healing for Family and Friends of ADHD People

1. ADHD people do not do all that they do on purpose, sometimes they can’t help it. There is something different with the way their brains work and process, they are and always will be ADHD and this may affect them and others both mentally and physically.
2. Don’t take the ADHD personally. You didn’t cause it, you can’t control it, and you can’t fix or cure it. You can’t even help the person, unless they want help first. The person is in pain on some level, even if you are unable to detect that.
3. Be willing to confront the symptoms of ADHD in a descriptive manner. Don’t shame or nag them, but be firm and gentle. Learn all you can about ADHD and strive to seperate the symptoms from the person.
4. Be willing to lose your relationship with the ADHD person if the person repeatedly refuses to seek help for himself or herself. You are a human being too! Some people must hit bottom in order to admit defeat.
5. Don’t cover up, enable, or shield the ADHD person from their behavior, whenever possible. Do not lie to others or make excuses, but please do attempt to transmit knowledge to detractors who would use lack of understanding to sway your position.
6. Arm yourself with understanding, knowledge and education about ADHD. Know that denial is not the same as lying, the ADHD person often times cannot see the obvious because it hurts too much. Remember that ADHD causes different issues for children, adolescents, teenagers and adults.

Þetta fann ég á þessari heimasíðu: http://forums.families.com/12-steps-for-adhd,t35831

Athugasemdir

[Ásgerður , 5.10.2007 kl. 12:39]

Takk fyrir þetta Sirrý,,,,,frábær lesning.

[Birna Dis Vilbertsdóttir (IP-tala skráð) 5.10.2007 kl. 16:06]

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